“You do not achieve anything without trouble, ever.” – Margaret Thatcher
All you need to do is get on social media to see how an entitlement mentality is creating a society of weaklings and overly-sensitive people. Someone who has an entitlement mindset believes that the world owes him a living.
Unfortunately, the education system in the US and other countries is fostering such a mindset. Students increasingly are led to believe that others need to cater to their sensitivities. Safe spaces with teddy bears have become the norm on campuses.
Participation trophies have led our youth to believe that everyone is a winner even if they don’t perform. This creates people who crave praise and reward even when they don’t expend any effort.
It creates an entitlement mentality where they think that their very existence deserves recognition. Very often, parents are to blame for this situation.
By spoiling their children and giving in to their whims and fancies, they lead their children to believe that the world will bend over to please them the moment they whine a little.
When these kids grow up, they discover the jarring truth that the world doesn’t really care about them. It’s sink or swim… and very often, these young adults sink into depression and despair, or become the disaffected in society who feel like the system is broken.
If you’re planning to become an entrepreneur, chances are that you do not have an entitlement mindset. However, the effects of our current society can have an impact on us.
Here are a few pointers to take note of…
- The real world is brutal
The harsh truth is that people while generally good by nature, tend to be selfish and look out for their own interests. This is natural and it ensures the survival of the species.
When you get into business, it’s imperative that you be aware of your competition. They’re not going to gladly accept you into their club and let you have a slice of the pie.
Instead, they’ll do whatever they can to put you out of business so that they can have a bigger share. If you have an entitlement mindset and expect them to be nice to you and encourage your business to grow, you’ll be in for a rude shock.
It’s a fight from the get-go. That’s how it will always be. So, be ready to lace up your gloves and go in punching.
- Life is not fair
This is obvious and yet missed by millions. Life never deals everyone a fair hand. You get what you get and you best play your hand well. We don’t have the same starting points. We don’t even have the same races.
Expecting everyone to start off from the same point sounds good in theory, but life is not a track race. The hard truth is that some will have it harder than others.
Instead of waiting for the world to change and the authorities making things ‘fair’ for everyone, which could take decades or even centuries, it’s best that you do what Theodore Roosevelt suggested – “Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.”
- You sabotaging your success
When you have an entitlement mindset, you expect others to help you succeed. You’re looking for a saviour. It could be your parents, boss, or the government.
While you’re waiting for others to save you, your contemporaries who are success-oriented will be forging ahead. You’ll be losing time and ground. An entitlement mindset is holding you back.
Expecting society or the world to change just so that you have things easier is a recipe for failure in your life. You’ll be holding yourself back and denying yourself a truly fulfilling life. You must go after what you want in the face of all odds. The kite rises against the wind.
- It creates enmity and hostility
Get on Facebook and you’ll see that the most volatile and argumentative people are often those with an entitlement mindset. They expect others to toe the line and not offend anyone.
Everything is about race sensitivities, genders, pronouns, obscure books from some 18th-century writer suddenly becoming offensive, and so on. It has become a clown world where a horde of entitled people feel a need to get the world to behave in a way that pleases the hordes.
That’s not happening anytime soon. By having an entitled mindset, you’ll alienate many friends and family who find you insufferable.
- You’ll always lose in the long run
Last but not least, there is the way you think the world should be – and there is the way it currently is. While we should strive to always make things better, we shouldn’t stagnate waiting for things to change before we can act.
When you stop expecting others to help you succeed, you know that it’s all on you. Once you accept full responsibility for your life, you’ll discover a sense of freedom you never thought possible.
Your success is in your hands. The world will give you whatever you ask of it if you’re willing to work hard, work smart, pay the price and keep going. It doesn’t matter where you come from or what your disadvantages are.
You still can win. There may be many things wrong with the world, but the setup will never change – prolonged effort in the face of pain and struggle will inevitably yield reward.